- Betrayal, mistrust, being stabbed in the back
- Being a victim, giving up
- Overwhelming thoughts
- Negative thoughts directed at you from others
- Something is finished – which is like a death
- Lessons learned, completion of a cycle
Feeling helpless because there’s so many things to do, so many tasks, so much on your mind.
Sometimes we need to admit that we need help, and we can’t do it on our own.
Another part to this; don’t spend time with people who will betray you. Learn your lessons and don’t place yourself in harmful situations.
Even if it seems harmless, like if you just change yourself a little bit, or compromise yourself a little bit to fit in, or say, “I’m just going to say I agree so this night can go well.”
In the end, that is killing you because you’re losing yourself, you’re losing your identity and your authenticity.
Sometimes we need to be corrected if we’re on the wrong track or if we’re incorrect about something – that’s why it’s important to have friends who you can have disagreements with, and work them out.
But that’s not the same thing as constantly changing yourself, and trying to force yourself into places where you don’t belong and aren’t welcome and don’t feel safe.
Value yourself by putting up strong boundaries. Plus, letting go of tense situations and strained relationships opens up room for you explore environments and situations you DO feel in harmony with.
9 of Swords:
- Anxiety, worry, stress, loneliness, guilt, regret
Trying to clear your mind & console yourself won’t make your worries go away.
Ask yourself, “Is worrying about this helping the situation right now? Is there anything I can do about it right now?” If no, let it go.
Deal with the problems, and again, you don’t have to do it alone. Even if there’s nobody in the world you think you can trust, there is always someone to help.
9 of Cups:
- Personal satisfaction, rewards, vindication, accomplishment
The satisfaction is “personal” because holding yourself to your own highest standards is emotionally rewarding.
Forcing things and being hard on yourself to be perfect and fit in and try to make everyone like you increases your stress and drains you of your vitality.
Ask yourself, “What do I really want? And if I had that, what would that mean and what would that feel like?”
It’s OK to close yourself off from others sometimes, IF it makes you more focused.
Stop being distracted trying to prove yourself. Just being your best self will naturally bring you into contact with those you feel more aligned with, because that’s where your focus will be.
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