3 Ways to Have Better Self Esteem

Here are 3 Ways to Have Better Self Esteem:

1) Retrain your brain to notice the things you like about yourself.  Use positive self speak, because your spirit believes what you say about yourself.

2) Improve yourself.  Learn something new and do something for yourself that makes you feel good.

3) Change from the inside out.  You become what you radiate out, so if you’re cranky and grumpy you’re going to look that way.  If you use positive self speak that makes you feel good, you’re going to feel and look good.

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Past Life Interview Series Part 2 – Joanna Turner

In this interview, Joanna Turner shares how she found out about her life where she was burnt at the stake as a witch.

She explains the journey she went through to heal this life and integrate her past life memory into her current life.

Originally from Scotland, now a digital nomad. Joanna is a leading Intuitive Business Mentor, Advanced EFT & Master NLP Practitioner, (and former Chartered Accountant!) She is a mentor to female entrepreneurs, and specializes in busting money & visibility blocks.  Find out more about her and her current offerings at www.missionforbalance.com

Making Plans & Adapting

 

You can know that you’re really committed to following through with your plans if you make a plan that works for you personally.

Self-sabotage happens when you create a plan that you know you can’t follow through with.

For example, say that you want to start a meditation practice and eventually you want to work up to 30 minutes a day of meditation because you know that it would benefit you.

Mentally; you’d have more clarity, physically; it would benefit your health, spiritually and emotionally; it would help you feel more centered.

There are all these benefits that you know it would help you with – but if you start off by saying, “I’m going to meditate 30 minutes a day,” and then a week later you’re like, “Well it’s Sunday, I’m going to sleep in instead of doing my meditation; I feel good so I’m going to take this morning off.”

That is self-sabotaging, but if you start with something that you definitely know you can do, like say, “Well I definitely know I can start with 5 minutes a day and I can stick to that no matter what.”

So you stick with that and eventually it feels natural to you.

There are all these Psychology studies that say it takes 21 – 30 days to break a habit.  So, if you say “I can definitely start with 5 minutes and no matter what, no excuses, I’m going to commit to the 5 minutes a day.”

You can remind yourself of the benefits – “It’s going to make me feel so good, and it is already making me feel so good, and I feel so calm and centered and stable and clear…” and just keep giving yourself that motivation, and then when you get to the end of the 30 days it feels so natural for you that you can increase it to 10 minutes.

You just keep going until it becomes natural to you because of course, at first, lifestyle changes don’t feel natural.

You’re like, “Why am I doing this??  It doesn’t make sense…” and then you remind yourself of the benefits, and you continue with it until you’re like, “Wow, I did all these things and I really did make this change, because I care about myself and I’m committed to doing what makes me feel good.”

Another level to this is if there’s an event or project you’re working on like a book, or an art project.  When you do that there’s an energy that you bring through and you change things in this reality.

When you participate in life and change reality, life responds.  You want to leave room or the unexpected to happen, because things may not go how you expect.

You want to be a part of that flow of life where you’re bringing through your creative expression and sharing your love with the world and creating events and planning ahead for certain things to happen.

But you also have to give room for the unexpected to happen and just to see how life responds to that and how you respond to it – to the changes that you’re bringing through.

Even though you do need to give yourself that time and space, and be patient with yourself and gentle with yourself, you still need to make the plan and follow through with what you say you’re going to do.

Make your plans and play your part, because if you don’t do anything then nothing will change.  Getting out there and creating and working on creative projects may not turn out how you expect, but if you don’t do anything then nothing will change.

-Nora

Spring Equinox

Today is a great day to go within and recognize the increasing light within you.

That may bring new awareness to something that needs to be left behind to move forward and fully embody this light, which is empowering to your Highest Potential.

Take some time to meditate and internally reflect on what is being reborn within you and how your old identity needs to fall away for you to move forward with your new identity and your new life.

Ask how you can come more into alignment with your new life.

Sometimes that will include drawing from past experiences, but sometimes it will require a new approach and being willing to have strength and courage and confidence in yourself and your own abilities that you are in alignment with what you’re calling forth into your life

And that as long as you stay in alignment with your true self and your most authentic self you’ll be empowered on this path and this journey.

So, you can leave old fears and your old identities behind.

Take some time to honor yourself and what you’re moving into and the light that’s increasing within you now.

How to align your will more with the will of the divine and the greater good and how you can step into the flow of that and be a part of that.

And a great way to do that is to get out in nature and see how nature’s flowing now and how can I step more into the flow of life and my surroundings and my own body.

Focus on your whole body and how that feels.  Notice if there’s any parts that are in pain or numb…just scan your body and see how you can have this union with your own body.

Just be fully aware of every sensation and send yourself love and feel as good as possible in your own body.

Happy Spring Equinox!

3/6 – 3/12

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10 of Swords: 

  • Betrayal, mistrust, being stabbed in the back
  • Being a victim, giving up
  • Overwhelming thoughts
  • Negative thoughts directed at you from others
  • Something is finished – which is like a death
  • Lessons learned, completion of a cycle

Feeling helpless because there’s so many things to do, so many tasks, so much on your mind.

Sometimes we need to admit that we need help, and we can’t do it on our own.

Another part to this; don’t spend time with people who will betray you.  Learn your lessons and don’t place yourself in harmful situations. 

Even if it seems harmless, like if you just change yourself a little bit, or compromise yourself a little bit to fit in, or say, “I’m just going to say I agree so this night can go well.”

In the end, that is killing you because you’re losing yourself, you’re losing your identity and your authenticity.

Sometimes we need to be corrected if we’re on the wrong track or if we’re incorrect about something – that’s why it’s important to have friends who you can have disagreements with, and work them out.

But that’s not the same thing as constantly changing yourself, and trying to force yourself into places where you don’t belong and aren’t welcome and don’t feel safe.

Value yourself by putting up strong boundaries.  Plus, letting go of tense situations and strained relationships opens up room for you explore environments and situations you DO feel in harmony with.

9 of Swords:

  • Anxiety, worry, stress, loneliness, guilt, regret

Trying to clear your mind & console yourself won’t make your worries go away.

Ask yourself, “Is worrying about this helping the situation right now?  Is there anything I can do about it right now?”  If no, let it go.

Deal with the problems, and again, you don’t have to do it alone.  Even if there’s nobody in the world you think you can trust, there is always someone to help.

9 of Cups:

  • Personal satisfaction, rewards, vindication, accomplishment

The satisfaction is “personal” because holding yourself to your own highest standards is emotionally rewarding. 

Forcing things and being hard on yourself to be perfect and fit in and try to make everyone like you increases your stress and drains you of your vitality.

Ask yourself, “What do I really want? And if I had that, what would that mean and what would that feel like?”

It’s OK to close yourself off from others sometimes, IF it makes you more focused.

Stop being distracted trying to prove yourself.  Just being your best self will naturally bring you into contact with those you feel more aligned with, because that’s where your focus will be.

-Nora

*I have 2 spots left in March for 6 Weeks of personalized one-on-one support.  Email me at contact@norawallace.com to set up a free 30-minute discovery call to find out how this can help you.  Includes a free mini-reading with immediate support.*

Weekly Cards 2/27 – 3/5

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Happy New Moon! 

There’s something refreshing about New Moons.

While the slow build up in the week before the new moon may be begrudgingly painful as we release and work through difficult emotions…

The New Moon gives us a chance to start fresh, and feel lighter, with a clean slate to work with.

This New Moon is also with a Solar eclipse which has to do with our identity.

What if we were to harness the creative power and genius that’s available to us?

There is a way to get closer to God and feel Divinity flow through you.  Let the Goddess open up all your channels, energizing every fiber of your being with electricity.

Feel the giant wings of Archangel Michael shielding you.  Feel the Angelic wings of Isis spreading across your back.

Feel your own Angelic nature.

Pisces is a time of connection with our Spirituality.

“What do I believe?” is an extremely important question.

Find out if you have any unanswered questions and answer them.

One false belief can be a loophole that unravels your whole belief system so it can also be a time of great transformation that’s not always easy.

That’s why the Destroyer archetypes are coming through – Sekhmet, Kali, Inanna.  To bring attention to our own weakest links within ourselves so we can be stronger.

We need to get to the root of it and figure out why it’s there.  Heal, acknowledge, and honor it, in order to transform it.

Heal the core wound or the pattern will repeat itself.

Cards:

Hanged Man:  Suspense, waiting, letting go of control, spiritual awakening, illumination, enlightenment, perspective, world turned upside down.

Empress:  Divine Feminine.  Calling forth manifestation of abundance, patience, allowing, receiving, love, beauty.

Being out in nature is good for the Spirit.  Our spirit wants to be nurtured and lavished in the luxury of Mother Nature.  Let yourself enjoy and experience pleasure.

10 of Pentacles: Family, generations, longevity, prosperity, wealth, security, familiarity.  Happiness, success, everything is how it should be.  Enjoying home life.

Appreciating those that support us, elders, husbands, wives, children, pets.

-Nora

I have 3 spaces available in March for the one on one Personal Map of Life Tarot series, as well as the one on one Shamanic Journey series.

These series initiate long term transformation, healing, guidance, and empowerment in your life.  Email contact@norawallace.com to set up your discovery call.

*I have a very exciting one on one  3 Month Goddess Transformation series coming up.  Stay tuned for more!*

Weekly Guidance 2/13 – 2/19

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The Page of Wands comes in the beginning of the week to help us overcome obstacles and challenges in regards to our creativity, passion and motivation.

In the middle of the week we have the 3 of Cups which indicates some sort of celebration, friendship and social connection.

We are able to find a like-minded community that makes us feel like we are a part of something.

At the end of the week we have the 2 of Cups, which is more of a one-on-one meeting of the hearts.

There’s a union of complimentary pairs that shows us that we can value each other’s differences.

Because we have the 2 & 3 of Cups this week, it’s likely that the challenges in the beginning of the week will help us find a way to feel more connected to those around us later in the week in a way that is truly authentic.

-Nora

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What makes something Sacred/Holy?

Weekly Guidance 12/19 – 12/25

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There is a shift in energy in this week as Mercury goes retrograde and the Winter Solstice is on Wednesday.

This is the time to relax and unwind and bring cycles and projects to completion.

Tie up any loose ends and finish what you have started in the past couple of weeks.

Writing things down can help us stay organized during a Mercury retrograde cycle.

The Winter Solstice is the shortest day of the year and from this point on the lights starts to increase.

It’s a good time for internal reflection.

There may be some thoughts or issues that come up around your personal identity in the way that you see yourself and your roles in the world.

Know that you don’t have to define yourself.  

It’s OK to be with pure essence of your soul without having to place any demands or expectations on it.

Connect yourself back to your state of pure awareness.

Suggested Meditation:

Light a tealight candle and burn some sage or incense.

Sit in a meditative position, breathing deeply.

Connect through your inner eye to the heart of the Cosmic mother.

You may sense this as a black space that is endlessly expansive.

You may feel that the boundaries of your body dissolve, and feel around you an endless space.

This is a completely natural place to be as it is the source of all creation.

It is safe and nurturing for your spirit.

Allow yourself to be silent in this place for 10 to 20 minutes.

-Nora

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Claim your spot HERE.

Weekly Guidance 12/12 – 12/18

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In the beginning of the week we have the 3 of Pentacles, which is about working together towards a common goal.

When working together as a team, the goal of the team must be more important than any individual’s motive.  With all things in life you need a balance, so you also must make sure that everything is fair, and no one is being taken advantage of.

To have an effective team, there must be clarity.  Everyone must know their part.  This requires communication which takes us to…

The 3 of Swords in the middle of the week.  This is about using logic over emotion.

If you find yourself in the midst of a highly charged emotional atmosphere, we can clear the storm by using logic to sort through our emotions.

The most sensible and logical solution to a problem may not be the most immediately emotionally satisfying. 

However, if we let our emotions overtake us and ignore our logic…this can lead to us becoming soft, lazy, self-serving, complacent.

This bring us to the 9 of Cups.

Using logic over emotion and cooperating with your community will ultimately bring a deeper sense of emotional fulfillment.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking you should only do things that make you feel good. 

Cliché statements like “follow your heart” and “if it feels good, do it, if it doesn’t, don’t” may sometimes accurately apply in our lives…

But they can also be dangerous if we don’t critically analyze our own motivations and why something makes us feel good.

For example, stepping into our Highest Potential may mean doing something that is extremely challenging. 

But if you choose to instead do what feels best, you could miss out on an opportunity for growth, learning and experience. 

Not only that, but if you could’ve benefited others by making a different choice, then you’re actually robbing humanity of your gifts.

Working through your difficult emotions and keeping yourself mentally fit will ultimately be more satisfying anyway because you’re fulfilling a deeper need, and that is to participate in life and contribute to society in a way that is useful and helpful in the long term.

-Nora

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