Making Plans & Adapting

 

You can know that you’re really committed to following through with your plans if you make a plan that works for you personally.

Self-sabotage happens when you create a plan that you know you can’t follow through with.

For example, say that you want to start a meditation practice and eventually you want to work up to 30 minutes a day of meditation because you know that it would benefit you.

Mentally; you’d have more clarity, physically; it would benefit your health, spiritually and emotionally; it would help you feel more centered.

There are all these benefits that you know it would help you with – but if you start off by saying, “I’m going to meditate 30 minutes a day,” and then a week later you’re like, “Well it’s Sunday, I’m going to sleep in instead of doing my meditation; I feel good so I’m going to take this morning off.”

That is self-sabotaging, but if you start with something that you definitely know you can do, like say, “Well I definitely know I can start with 5 minutes a day and I can stick to that no matter what.”

So you stick with that and eventually it feels natural to you.

There are all these Psychology studies that say it takes 21 – 30 days to break a habit.  So, if you say “I can definitely start with 5 minutes and no matter what, no excuses, I’m going to commit to the 5 minutes a day.”

You can remind yourself of the benefits – “It’s going to make me feel so good, and it is already making me feel so good, and I feel so calm and centered and stable and clear…” and just keep giving yourself that motivation, and then when you get to the end of the 30 days it feels so natural for you that you can increase it to 10 minutes.

You just keep going until it becomes natural to you because of course, at first, lifestyle changes don’t feel natural.

You’re like, “Why am I doing this??  It doesn’t make sense…” and then you remind yourself of the benefits, and you continue with it until you’re like, “Wow, I did all these things and I really did make this change, because I care about myself and I’m committed to doing what makes me feel good.”

Another level to this is if there’s an event or project you’re working on like a book, or an art project.  When you do that there’s an energy that you bring through and you change things in this reality.

When you participate in life and change reality, life responds.  You want to leave room or the unexpected to happen, because things may not go how you expect.

You want to be a part of that flow of life where you’re bringing through your creative expression and sharing your love with the world and creating events and planning ahead for certain things to happen.

But you also have to give room for the unexpected to happen and just to see how life responds to that and how you respond to it – to the changes that you’re bringing through.

Even though you do need to give yourself that time and space, and be patient with yourself and gentle with yourself, you still need to make the plan and follow through with what you say you’re going to do.

Make your plans and play your part, because if you don’t do anything then nothing will change.  Getting out there and creating and working on creative projects may not turn out how you expect, but if you don’t do anything then nothing will change.

-Nora

Spiritual Professionals: Your Work is Important!

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I want to thank you for all the work you do, and remind you that what you do is meaningful.  You may never know the true extent of how you help people, but I am here to remind you that what you do has a positive effect in the lives of the people that you work with.

Here is the story of the first time I got a reading from a spiritual professional, and how she made a lasting impact on my life:

I remember her clearly.  Her aura gave off the warm aroma of essential oils and she looked at you as though she could see right through to your soul.

She was mystical like the color purple, but she was also down to earth like rich soil.

She graciously invited me into her home and brought me to her reading area.  With the spark of a match she passed the smoke of Sage over me.  When she asked me why I was there, I gave an emotionally charged, frenetic response.  Her Taurean sobriety was comforting to me.

The first cards she pulled were Temperance and the 5 of Swords.

“It looks to me like you’re trying to make something work, but it isn’t quite working for you.”

Immediately what came to mind was my relationship with my husband.  I thought about all the conversations we’d had recently where it seemed impossible to reach any sort of mutual conclusion.  This was extremely frustrating to me, being that he was (and still is) my best friend, so I couldn’t talk about this to the person I would normally turn to.

She started describing to me the Queen of Swords, “…emotionally distant…seeks the highest truth…presents impossible tests of loyalty in relationships…high standards of perfection…”

I knew that she was describing my husband.   She was good.

Then came her description of the King of Wands,                                                             “aggressive…intolerant…headstrong…temper…dramatic…”

Holy crap.  That was me.

She just described the way we had been communicating with each other at the time.  How did she know this?

It was in the cards.  And man, did she know her cards. 

She did not mince words, she gave me tough love realness and told me exactly what I had to do to stop my pity party.   I’m not sure what I expected or wanted to hear that day, but she wasn’t going to give it to me.

What she did give to me, was what I actually needed to hear.  When I got home I was able to apply all the advice she gave me.  Our conversations became more well-rounded, and we were able to see things from each other’s perspectives.

Not only did she help me to see my relationship dynamics more clearly so that I could better communicate with my husband…

…but my first Tarot reading awoke within me the deep connection I have to the cards (and eventually other forms of divination) that spans across this and other lifetimes.

To the woman who showed me that it’s possible to forge your own path in the world, thank you.  You’ve shown me that:

“You can go your own way!”

She wasn’t the first, either, and she won’t be the last.  I’ve been so inspired by the immense wisdom held by the spiritual professionals who have helped me along my way.

So whether you are helping someone to navigate their close personal relationships, or get the nerve to pursue their passion with bold confidence, you are doing great work! 

Thank you for your commitment and courage to show up in the world in a way that is authentically spiritually aligned.   Thank you for being you, and offering your truth, your practicality and your realness!

You are helping to transform this world for the better. 

Love, Nora