Making Plans & Adapting

 

You can know that you’re really committed to following through with your plans if you make a plan that works for you personally.

Self-sabotage happens when you create a plan that you know you can’t follow through with.

For example, say that you want to start a meditation practice and eventually you want to work up to 30 minutes a day of meditation because you know that it would benefit you.

Mentally; you’d have more clarity, physically; it would benefit your health, spiritually and emotionally; it would help you feel more centered.

There are all these benefits that you know it would help you with – but if you start off by saying, “I’m going to meditate 30 minutes a day,” and then a week later you’re like, “Well it’s Sunday, I’m going to sleep in instead of doing my meditation; I feel good so I’m going to take this morning off.”

That is self-sabotaging, but if you start with something that you definitely know you can do, like say, “Well I definitely know I can start with 5 minutes a day and I can stick to that no matter what.”

So you stick with that and eventually it feels natural to you.

There are all these Psychology studies that say it takes 21 – 30 days to break a habit.  So, if you say “I can definitely start with 5 minutes and no matter what, no excuses, I’m going to commit to the 5 minutes a day.”

You can remind yourself of the benefits – “It’s going to make me feel so good, and it is already making me feel so good, and I feel so calm and centered and stable and clear…” and just keep giving yourself that motivation, and then when you get to the end of the 30 days it feels so natural for you that you can increase it to 10 minutes.

You just keep going until it becomes natural to you because of course, at first, lifestyle changes don’t feel natural.

You’re like, “Why am I doing this??  It doesn’t make sense…” and then you remind yourself of the benefits, and you continue with it until you’re like, “Wow, I did all these things and I really did make this change, because I care about myself and I’m committed to doing what makes me feel good.”

Another level to this is if there’s an event or project you’re working on like a book, or an art project.  When you do that there’s an energy that you bring through and you change things in this reality.

When you participate in life and change reality, life responds.  You want to leave room or the unexpected to happen, because things may not go how you expect.

You want to be a part of that flow of life where you’re bringing through your creative expression and sharing your love with the world and creating events and planning ahead for certain things to happen.

But you also have to give room for the unexpected to happen and just to see how life responds to that and how you respond to it – to the changes that you’re bringing through.

Even though you do need to give yourself that time and space, and be patient with yourself and gentle with yourself, you still need to make the plan and follow through with what you say you’re going to do.

Make your plans and play your part, because if you don’t do anything then nothing will change.  Getting out there and creating and working on creative projects may not turn out how you expect, but if you don’t do anything then nothing will change.

-Nora

Spring Equinox

Today is a great day to go within and recognize the increasing light within you.

That may bring new awareness to something that needs to be left behind to move forward and fully embody this light, which is empowering to your Highest Potential.

Take some time to meditate and internally reflect on what is being reborn within you and how your old identity needs to fall away for you to move forward with your new identity and your new life.

Ask how you can come more into alignment with your new life.

Sometimes that will include drawing from past experiences, but sometimes it will require a new approach and being willing to have strength and courage and confidence in yourself and your own abilities that you are in alignment with what you’re calling forth into your life

And that as long as you stay in alignment with your true self and your most authentic self you’ll be empowered on this path and this journey.

So, you can leave old fears and your old identities behind.

Take some time to honor yourself and what you’re moving into and the light that’s increasing within you now.

How to align your will more with the will of the divine and the greater good and how you can step into the flow of that and be a part of that.

And a great way to do that is to get out in nature and see how nature’s flowing now and how can I step more into the flow of life and my surroundings and my own body.

Focus on your whole body and how that feels.  Notice if there’s any parts that are in pain or numb…just scan your body and see how you can have this union with your own body.

Just be fully aware of every sensation and send yourself love and feel as good as possible in your own body.

Happy Spring Equinox!

3/13 – 3/19

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The Magician is a reminder that our thoughts & words are very powerful, and as we speak, we create.

It’s time to align your will with the Divine Plan for your life.

The Empress reminds us that there is a flow to the abundance of life, and to be a part of it all we must do is step into that flow.

If any part of you is resistant & holding on when you should be letting go, you’re separating yourself from that flow.

Surrendering your will to the Divine will means that if you fee divinely guided to something, you work through your own resistances or understanding of why you should do it.

The 6 of Pentacles means that there’s an exchange of resources.  Resources include time, energy, money, etc.

We need to balance out the giving and receiving in our lives to keep the flow going.

Things aren’t always as they appear.  One person’s success may not look like success to someone else.

You don’t have to wait for someone to come along and give you what you think you need, because maybe you need to be exactly where you are now so you can be the one to make a different choice.

-Nora

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3/6 – 3/12

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10 of Swords: 

  • Betrayal, mistrust, being stabbed in the back
  • Being a victim, giving up
  • Overwhelming thoughts
  • Negative thoughts directed at you from others
  • Something is finished – which is like a death
  • Lessons learned, completion of a cycle

Feeling helpless because there’s so many things to do, so many tasks, so much on your mind.

Sometimes we need to admit that we need help, and we can’t do it on our own.

Another part to this; don’t spend time with people who will betray you.  Learn your lessons and don’t place yourself in harmful situations. 

Even if it seems harmless, like if you just change yourself a little bit, or compromise yourself a little bit to fit in, or say, “I’m just going to say I agree so this night can go well.”

In the end, that is killing you because you’re losing yourself, you’re losing your identity and your authenticity.

Sometimes we need to be corrected if we’re on the wrong track or if we’re incorrect about something – that’s why it’s important to have friends who you can have disagreements with, and work them out.

But that’s not the same thing as constantly changing yourself, and trying to force yourself into places where you don’t belong and aren’t welcome and don’t feel safe.

Value yourself by putting up strong boundaries.  Plus, letting go of tense situations and strained relationships opens up room for you explore environments and situations you DO feel in harmony with.

9 of Swords:

  • Anxiety, worry, stress, loneliness, guilt, regret

Trying to clear your mind & console yourself won’t make your worries go away.

Ask yourself, “Is worrying about this helping the situation right now?  Is there anything I can do about it right now?”  If no, let it go.

Deal with the problems, and again, you don’t have to do it alone.  Even if there’s nobody in the world you think you can trust, there is always someone to help.

9 of Cups:

  • Personal satisfaction, rewards, vindication, accomplishment

The satisfaction is “personal” because holding yourself to your own highest standards is emotionally rewarding. 

Forcing things and being hard on yourself to be perfect and fit in and try to make everyone like you increases your stress and drains you of your vitality.

Ask yourself, “What do I really want? And if I had that, what would that mean and what would that feel like?”

It’s OK to close yourself off from others sometimes, IF it makes you more focused.

Stop being distracted trying to prove yourself.  Just being your best self will naturally bring you into contact with those you feel more aligned with, because that’s where your focus will be.

-Nora

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